Biographies::Biography of the week 20040517
From R-KIDS of MN and GPF
This part of your site shows your bias against custodial parents.
Horror story of how your children were stolen from you? How about a horror story of how my children have been abused?
Like the time that their dad left them alone for two hours (they were 6, 4 and 3)? The 6-year-old called me because she was scared, but begged me not to tell her dad, because he would beat her for telling. I promised to confront him when she was coming back to me. I did NOT report him about it - the object was to change his behavior, not deny my children access to their father.
How about the time when he spanked our 4-year-old (the youngest) for his speech impediment? Not once, but so many times that he left one massive bruise covering the whole of our son's bottom. I made it clear to him that I would call police if he ever left another bruise on any of our children, but I didn't turn him in for that, either. Shortly after that, our son qualified for speech therapy, which worked much better than his dad's beatings.
When our oldest was 12, and her dad insisted that she sleep on his couch with the front door open (in spite of the prostitutes and drug dealers on his street), she refused to stay with him of her own accord. It took two years for him to move to a safer neighborhood, and two months after that for her to forgive him enough to actually stay with him again.
Then there is support. What does the typical parent making $45,000 per year pay in support for three children? They regularly geot $20 per month. They got $20 last month (April 2004), and $20 the month before that (March 2004).
He also refuses to buy school clothes, school supplies, extracurricular items, etc. He tells them that their mother can take it out of the child support he paid. He tells ME that he refuses to support HIS children so long as they live in MY household. He's also said that if my current husband gets to raise them, he ought to have to pay for them. My current husband has put up with so much grief from this man that he'd be happy to see him disappear completely. I'm the one who says the CHILDREN have the RIGHT to see their father (not the responsibility).
He's an R Kids member, with frequent press about his membership - pictures and all. He's used R Kids resources to file frivolous lawsuits in every court available. Is this the kind of person you mean when you talk about how horrible it is that he doesn't have his children all the time? Why don't you talk to the children? At this point in their lives, they only go see him because he'll file lawsuits against me if they don't!
